A few years ago I was just learning a a new video game on line. I wasn't very good at, but it brought me a lot of joy. I was home schooled at the time and didn't have very many friends outside my family. This was a great way for me to connect with others peers close to my age. While playing one time another player said "you suck!" Although those words are small they really effected me at that point in my life. Being kind goes a long way in life, you never know where someone else maybe.
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Wow. That is harsh. It's amazing how people get braver with what they say when there is a screen between them and the person they insult. You don't suck Brent.
Oh Brent... your story is so important. Words slip out so easily and have lasting effects... and most of the time those words leave our mouths without much thought or effort....I’m sorry this was said to you and for how it affected you.... thank you for reminding all of us of the power of words.... you are a great coach to all of us through your story!
Aww yes what a great story! I like how you stated how it made you feel, and how you didn't want to be like those negative people. You're so strong.
"Being kind goes a long way in life" That should be something everyone should really be able to understand. There is so much hate in life, just being nice can really change someones day. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you for sharing the experience, Brent. It so true and something I think we can all relate to. I saw a Ted Talk by a brain scientist that said that it takes our brains less than a second to process and hold on to an insult. Negative things stick immediately, like Velcro. On the other hand, he said it takes our brains 7 seconds to process and hold on to a compliment. He said its why a whole room full of people can say great things about me but if one person says something negative, that is the thing I remember. I thought this was amazing and sad. It shows how much power negativity can have over us. Once I heard that I decided I was going to try really hard to pay attention to what I say to myself and to others. I also decided that I was going to give compliments over and over because clearly our brains need it.
Although those words are small they really effected me. Brent, I love your post! It's crazy how just two words can make such an impact. Sometimes I'll remember hurtful things people said to me years ago, but the pain is still real, almost like they said it today. Insecure people say mean things to try and make us feel small, but the truth is that you are not small! You are strong and smart and powerful! Thanks for sharing.
One of my favorite quotes of all time is, "when given the choice between being right or being kind, choose kind"~Dr Wayne W Dyer. And it's very true. We need more kindness out there, because I agree: you never know where someone else might be in their life right now. I know how you feel. I too was homeschooled and you get very lonely always being a home by yourself. But I hope you have more friends now that you can go to for support. Thanks for sharing!