During elementary school, I had a friend that I believed was my best friend. This person was very pushy, but I didn’t listen to what other people thought and when she would tell what to do I would just ignore it. I thought it was normal for a friend to do this because I was 10 and not used to that yet. As time progressed I started to see how abusive the relationship we had was toxic. In fifth grade, we went to the pool and her mom forced me off the diving board because she had said I was being lame, and I didn’t care. After that, I told my mom, and her mom told my mom that I lied to her. Which I would never do. Then later I had to save my sister from drowning in their backyard pool because she and her mom were being reckless. There were days that I would come home from school and my arm would have a lot of scratches on it because she would take out her anger on me. Again, being ten I had no idea how to handle this so I just would carry on as nothing had happened. Slowly we drifted apart, but I still remember all the great times we had. I also learned that people who want to be in your life will put effort to be in it. I also learned that you can have an impact on no matter how long you know them, so why don’t you make it a good impact.
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This is a very difficult subject. Good friendships are hard to come by. I'm glad it all worked out in the end.
Im glad you got out of that friendship. If someone cares about you they will put effort and time into your friendship I hope you get to meet some amazing people because not everyone is like that. Thanks for sharing this!
What a great way to share what you learned from this situation. Every situation has a lesson to be learned from it and I'm so thankful that you showed that through this story! You're so inspirational.
Kathryn, I am so glad you are no longer in that friendship. She and her family sound unkind and hurtful! You deserve to feel loved and safe in every relationship! You are so courageous!
"people who want to be in your life will put effort to be in it." That's so true.
Kathryn, thanks for sharing this. So many people need to hear this! I know a lot of people (myself included) who have stayed in toxic relationships way too long, either because we want them to love us or because we feel like we need to save them. I always ask myself, "Do I like myself when I'm around this person?" If the answer is no, then I know they are not a good friend. It sounds like you have learned a lot from her. That's amazing!!
Thanks for sharing. I'm very glad you got out of that toxic relationship. I'm sure you have better friends now.